Appreciating what we might have missed

Reading the letter written by Amitabh Bachchan, and the controversy followed by it.I tried to reread the letter several times, and really miss, what my other friends, have been trying to portray by asking questions back from him.

I didn't find any issue in it, even though when he said , his grand-daughter's hold a very special legacy of his maternal grand father. Isn't it how our society is built, being a man, he relished his forefathers legacy more, but isn't it beautiful, he want his daughters, to carry forward it, not just his 'Sons', why we miss that ? If he really had anything of putting down feminism, he wont have written the letter to his daughters only, isn't it .

Bringing feminism in every topic, has become a trend now. I believe we have proved it many a times now, that girls are no less than boys, but don't stretch to a point that it looks like, boys are any less than girls!!! Being a girl, for me feminism is important, but my feminism is sub conscious effect of my husband's masculinity. We both are equals, but we are like those two hands of a body, who being equal, cannot dominate each other, we are required by each other in every phase of life, cut the one, and other becomes handicapped, true Right ?

I might be sounding strange, but somehow, I feel gender inequality is not sole result of what a man thinks, this might be harsh truth of life, it is more prevalent, due to women. You might see, son's are not asked by mothers to help them in daily chores, as much a daughter is required to; a son's marriage might not be something they are in hurry for, as much for a daughter who has just turned 20; I have seen mother's asking for a son, who might take care of her in old age, Really ? Than why there is sudden splurge in Old Age Home's when we have seen in past decades, boy:girl ratio have gone up.

I truly feel, a change in society is required, when it can be bought by a woman, in a woman, for a woman. A mother might have to think its 'OK', if her girl has more interest in playing the sport, and her son likes to cook; she is the primary care taker of her child in their early age, and if she can cultivate in him/her that you both are equal, that initial foundation will help us to move forward, and bring a change in society.

Lets stop pointing out what might be having no relevance in real world, but appreciate what is more important!

ON a wedding, to our loved young sis - Chetna

Its important to write sometimes, and its really important to write for someone, sometimes
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A wedding yesterday marked a new era, for us, an era where we are moving towards more maturity, more responsibility and a little higher position in family. Its important how life changes, wedding marks a new beginning, children another, but marriage of younger brother, sister marks a new era!!

I feel so different, so strange, when she stepped into this new world of hers, may be she will look back now and then, but I will still see her, as the little one. You are moving into a new life, a new dream, and I hope its a never ending dreamworld for you. You looked the most amazing bride, and the little hands of yours, tightly clenched, holding your fears, your shyness, and much beyond, the curiosity with which you have always looked at new things.

There is so much I learned from you, you always gave a new perspective of things to me, your smile was most cheerful one, and enthusiasm was mind blowing. I hope you will always keep that charm of your chirpiness.

You were always a backbone, and a loving support for our Friendship, even though you were the little one. We never said, but there was always a silent 'C' , when we said 'BANK' , without you, we were never complete and will never be! I hope people didn't wonder when four of us were clicked, who was there behind that camera, or when one of us was missing, who filled the place, with equal excitement. We formed the four pillars, and you were our 'C'enter. Now when you have undone the curtains of new beginning, I really wish that beautiful smile, the cheerful laughter, the sparkling eyes, will always behold their charm, forever.


--- With lots of Love to Chetna

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